2016 was a tough year for your Papa and me especially his health and his beloved dog, Happy. And you got sick at the end of year and the cold goes on till now. Cough, sneeze, fever, runny nose… It has been 4 days so far but the symptoms still doesn’t get better. This is our first time and your first time to deal with your sickness so we are trying to figure out what is the best for you. Antibiotics or no antibiotics for a toddler? Tylenol or no Tylenol for fever that is for 101 degree? Is saline spray working or giving him a sinus infection? Every friends who are parents tell us same thing: steam in the shower room, mist humidifier, saline spray with a snot sucker, elevating his head while he sleeps etc… we do everything what they tell us to do but we are not sure if it’s working… We are just hoping you will be better soon, very soon.
First Turkey (you were eating solid food last year. 🙂 )
With your big cousin, Crosby
It was a fun Thanksgiving dinner at your Papa’s friend (Dustin)’s house.
Luca: 19months old
Happy Thanksgiving! One of Papa’s friends invited us over to their dinner so we took an hour drive to get there and joined their dinner party. 🙂 His friend’s wife, Rachel cooks such great food so I was very looking forward to it.
Too bad I didn’t take enough photos of food (and Rachel) but they were super yummy.
I wanted to steal learn her recipe and cook them at home! Especially, her sweet potato ball!! I just can’t forget the flavor. It was soooo good.
I was also thankful that she cooked such huge meal. I have tried to cook a turkey before but oh boy, first of all, I didn’t know how to cook Turkey. Second of all, it took forever (4-5 hours) to cook. I love to cook and all but it was tiresome.
But I am glad you got to taste delicious food for the first time! 🙂
I finally was able to celebrate my birthday this year. Last year was a little chaos and we couldn’t celebrate so I was super happy to do this with my beloved family. Your papa took me a date at the nice French restaurant in Beverly Hills on the Saturday night, and you guys took me to the restaurant in Venice where I wanted to go for a long time on my actual birthday. Their food was super awesome and that made me so happy. I don’t need to receive any gift. Just taking me to a yummy place, that’s all I need. Haha
And after the lunch, we stopped by a park in Santa Monica and it was such a perfect day to get wet (even though it was in November!). When I see your excited smile, that makes me happy so I was happy that we were able to do that with your papa.
Thank you you two to make me feel so special and made my day. ❤️
Luca: 16 months old
On last Saturday, when I was cleaning Nash (our cat)’s litter box in our office, Luca was playing around behind me. I wasn’t sure what he was doing but I heard some cracking sound that it wasn’t pleasant to hear. Immediately when I heard it and saw what he did, I said “ohhh noooo!” and Papa rushed and came in the office and said “what happened??” And he saw broken pieces from the Classic Car Collection case which he kept for 40 years (he wanted to hand them over to him when he appreciates it).
He yelled at me and Luca why this happened. He immediately took Luca away from me and he put him in the play-pen. Luca knows what he did. That’s why he cried so much and tried to hide behind me. I tried to tell him not to touch those Papa’s toys but I guess how I said was soft, not strong enough.
I know I don’t scold Luca strong enough because I know Papa scolds him enough everyday. I don’t want to give too much stress on Luca’s early life. He is only 16 months. However I see in Luca’s eyes that I’m the soft one, Papa is the scary one. I don’t need to be the another scary one but I still need to discipline him. He needs to respect me and listen what I have to teach him.
So I decide myself to be consistent and tell what is right and what is not right with deeper voice (apparently some studies show that a child won’t listen to someone who teach him in high pitch voice.) and serious eyes. I have to look into his eyes and tell him “no”, simple instruction. It has been for a few days since I started doing this and it looks like it working on him. Sometimes he does something that is not supposed to be happening but it’s too funny to me. I just can’t help myself but laugh. I debate myself should I laugh or not but I’m a human being too. I have to laugh when I want to laugh. Discipline can come next… I have to be easy on myself otherwise I will get stressed out. That’s not good. Be easy to make my life easy! 😀
Anyway, it’s not easy to discipline Luca since he is a human being too and I want to respect that. Hopefully I don’t overthink what the discipline about and we can corporate each other.
As usual, I take you out for a walk after dinner and recently I realize how you climb or going down on stairs are more advance now. You don’t really sit down on stairs and try to reach it. You use handrails to go up and down. This is very new to me and you but I can see you want to try new thing and try to discover by yourself. I love what I see in front of me!
Today, you went down stairs with no hands!! Wow, it was impressive! I was little afraid that you might miss a step and fall down so I was carefully watching you. But you did it!! You didn’t have to use the handrails at all (or my hands!)!!
Day by day, you learn new things and you grow. And you become a big boy. I really enjoy watching your growth. (Well that means I have to really watch out where you are going! )
Last weekend, Labor Day weekend was pretty much fun for Luca. I tried to take him out to different park 3 days in a row. Douglas Park, Colorado Park and Will Rogers Historical Park. It was his first time to visit Will Rogers and he had different experience compared to the other park. It had some horses and big polo field where he could run as much as he wanted to. They didn’t have any recreation part like swings or slides so that was bummer but they had sand field where he can play with his shovel.
I like to take him out to any park because I can get to participate to discover new things with him or try new things. He tried a slide few times per visit and he wasn’t able to sit down and slide at the beginning but now he knows how to sit and slides (he still needs to hold my heads though). I am so happy to witness his growth like this. ❤️😘😍
By the way, I used to not like Douglas Park because there are too many adults and kids everyday in the weekend. But I see why it’s so popular now. It’s gated, they got a lot of sand fields and also have various slides. For toddlers who barely start walking to big kids. I like it a lot now that I take Luca there almost every weekend.
It was nice and relaxing weekend for Papa and it was busy for mama but it was fun weekend. 😄
You are born under a star of having two cultures: American and Japanese cultures even though you are born in United States. I think it’s lucky to have multicultural background because not everyone can get to have this. Because you have more opportunities in any direction than the other people who doesn’t have this type of thing.
Your mom is trying to speak Japanese to you every single day as well as teaching the culture what it is about. Japanese culture is very different from American culture that sometimes I am even having a hard time to explain even to your Papa. And speaking English is not that easy even though I live here more than 20 years now ESPECIALLY when I speak to your Papa. He is very strict about English grammar. No mercy on me being a foreigner. He always says “I can’t believe you live here more than 20 years. You should speak like a native!!” Lol I guess he doesn’t have many foreign friends in his life… He thinks I should speak English perfectly because of the length of living AND having an US passport. Hahahaha I think it’s funny. There are soooo many people out there who don’t speak “perfect” English or speak broken English but they live fine. But his point is I should speak good enough English so then you won’t be affected. I get his point but you will learn good English from school and the environment no matter how bad I speak. You live in America! Of course you will.
Anyway, I know you will get benefit someday by knowing two languages possibly more if you are interested. However, I can teach you Japanese so far that once you reach puberty, I’m pretty sure you will decide either to continue or discontinue of learning Japanese. I hope you will continue. And I will always “try” to understand for your wishes as much as I can. Although PLEASE know and remember that you have your relatives living in Japan. Your grandmother, your aunt, cousins (Yu, Fumiya and Yota. They are about 12-14 years older than you are. Fumiya and Yota play baseball!),my aunt and uncle and the other extended family members and my friends! They are all nice, and thoughtful people that you will be happy to get to know about. But most of them don’t speak English so that’s why you should be able to speak Japanese. It doesn’t have to be perfect. As long as you can communicate, that is all I wish for. If you can write or read, that’s fabulous!!
In this article (see you need to know how to read in Japanese! Hehe 😝), it’s difficult to raise a child as a bilingual because once you figure out who you are you might come to the conclusion that you no longer need to pursue the 2nd language you were learning because you think there is no purpose in your life to use it.
That shouldn’t be the case, my son. Japanese language and culture are so beautiful and its history is so deep, long and magnificent. American history is very interesting itself however it is not that long as Japanese history. But like I said earlier, I respect your wish as much as I can (I will try to persuade you anyway though! Haha).
As you can see, Luca is having more teeth. 4 teeth on the bottom and 4 teeth on the top.
I am trying to brush his teeth every night but as he gets older, he hates me brushing teeth. He just refuses it. I know forcing is not a good idea but I get frustrated more and more each day and started to research if there is any trick out there to help me or him to brush his teeth. There were several but this song I found seems to work.
Brush Your Teeth Song by Tokyo Heidi
This song is so catchy and easy to remember the lyrics. I am a big fan of mid-tones in a song. I just love how they sound and this song has it as well. I have such a bad memory but this song is really easy to remember. I sing this song even though I am alone in an elevator or a shower room. haha
So I started to show this Youtube to him after I hand the tooth brush (I know he won’t brush his teeth correctly but I’m telling myself “no forcing, no forcing”… I just want him to like brushing his teeth and I’m hoping eventually he will learn how important that is). From the first night, he was so interested to the song although I am not sure if he understands the lyrics yet but I think the illustration itself maybe catchy to him too. So he did started to brush his teeth. No more fighting, no more crying, no more punching my face. He was actually smiling and watching the video and brushing his teeth! Success!
Now, after a few nights, everything was going well but another question was raised… Should I let him watch a video before he goes to bed…? Urgh.. obvious question, obvious answer… Nope!.. lol So… I started to sing for him with this tone-deaf voice without the video. Tonight was the first night to try and sing it for him. The effect wasn’t same, of course. He again fought against me. 😦 I usually don’t put the yummy tooth paste but tonight I had to. So after I put some on the brush, it started working again. I think I need to get some Toms’ tooth paste or something which should be much safer to his body.
Anyway, I don’t know how long my tone-deaf singing with a tooth paste will last and be effective but hopefully he will start liking it…
Aw, I found an English version of this song.
Luca, I hope you won’t get cavities much! If you struggle with cavities later on your future, I have to show this blog to you and show how difficult it is to make you brush your teeth!! lol