Luca: 26 months old
From Day 1 at his birth, a pacifier or pacifiers were his best friend. The hospital where we had Luca gave us a lot of pacifiers. He used to suck it all the time and eventually, we made him use it only for his bed time or nap time. But for a long time until now, he couldn’t leave his pacifier alone. If he cries, or hurt himself, he always relied on it. He loved to suck on it so then he felt secure, comfortable, and relax. When he had it in his mouth, he could fall to sleep right away.
I think not only Luca, his papa also relied on it as well because he didn’t want to deal with a cry baby. Once Luca has the pacifier in his mouth, he immediately stops crying.
At one point, we had 8 pacifiers so than anywhere you go, you have one pacifier for sure. When he cried, we could always give it to him “right away”. It was very convenient for us, and for him too. He loved it so much that he started to call it “Baba”. That was one of his first words.
But I started to notice like a month ago, when he smiles, I couldn’t see his front teeth at all. Comparing to other kids around his age, I thought it’s weird not to see his teeth because those front teeth are there but short. When I opened his upper lips, I could see where he sucks the pacifier at because those 2-3 teeth are the only ones shorter than the other ones. So I realized we need to stop using it.
In last mid-July, we planned to go up to Central California, Monterey, and Pacific Grove.
A few days before we left for the trip, I cut the tip of the pacifier by thinking he needs to know it is about to say bye-bye to the pacifier. Luca started to cry and kept saying “Baba broke!, baba broke!”. I still remember how painful it was to hear for me. I felt really bad for him. Maybe I did something wrong. His papa also told me I shouldn’t have done that. However, I told myself to hold it strong just for a few days then he will stop asking me about Baba.
In the Monterey trip, I hide one pacifier in my bag for just in case but I pretended I forgot to bring one. Luca kept asking me about Baba but I told him “Baba said bye bye because you are a big boy now. Baba had another baby to take care of now. His job with you are done and he is very happy with you that you are grown up.” I am not sure he understood that but he eventually stopped asking me or his papa for a baba. While we stayed in Monterey, he did ask us for it for a few times but when we say “remember, you don’t need one anymore” then he stopped asking without crying. I was very proud of him for not crying.
Now it’s been almost 2 months since we stopped using the baba. He does ask for it time to time but he is ok without Baba now.
I’m so glad I cut the tip of the pacifier now. 😀