Potty Training #2

Luca: 2.7 years old

We finally started your potty training from December 28th. Mama took 2 days off on Thursday and Friday and I was hoping you will get used to this before you go back to school on January 8th.

The whole weekend until January 2nd was rough, to be honest. Maybe Mama and Papa looked very intense on our faces even though our words were like “Next time, you have to pee pee (or poo poo) on the potty ok?” We say very gently. You still had to make some “accidents” in your pants. On 3rd day, I think you started to understand and being able to hold on your pee pee until you get to the bathroom, well most of the times. But you know what happened? On the 3rd day, I thought if we took your underwear off completely, I mean you were half naked, this training would go much smoother and better.

Well, not quite…. I tried to keep my eyes on you literally for the whole time. Except this just “2 seconds” to pick up a little bit of chips on the floor. As soon as I looked away and tried to pick it up with my fingers, you said “Mama, poo poo!” I was so excited that you called it out so I picked you up and brought to the master bathroom. You sat on the toilet and waiting for the pee and poo come out. You succeeded on the pee part but we didn’t see poo out. Although I saw tiny poo sticking on your leg. I wondered what happened and looked back around the door area and guess what I found on the floor!! Your poop!! 😱 And it seemed like I stepped on it (I had my socks on… Thank god!) too!! πŸ˜‚

After the incident, we thought you were not quite ready yet. I was honestly disappointed. πŸ˜• I tried to look back what we did wrong, what we can do any better, or you were not ready at all…

But we didn’t give up! We always tell you “never give up” and we should be the good example for you too.

So now it’s Jan 3rd (7th day), we tried not to give you any pressure. If you call it out from yourself, we take you to the bathroom. Sometimes we give you the reminder but it was all up to you even though you wet your pants.

In the morning of Jan 3rd, you told me you didn’t have to go pee pee just yet when I asked you if you needed to go. I said “ok. Let us know when you are ready”. You said “ok Mama”. But later on I had an idea to tell him while I was brushing my teeth.

I said to you, “you know what. You just ate your breakfast right?

You: “yeah it was good”

Mama: “I think Mr. Toilet is hungry too. He just told me he hasn’t eaten since yesterday”

You: (your eyes were enlightened) “really?”

Mama: “Yup. So if you can poo poo there (pointing the toilet bowl), he would be so happy and say “Thank you, Luca! Yum yum!” (Sorry it’s not a pretty story)

So you took off for a couple min and came back and said “Mama, pee pee!”

You sat down on the toilet, and you DID it!! Pee and… poo!! Hallelujah!! πŸŽ‰πŸŽ‰πŸŽ‰

Mama had to call Papa and celebrated with you!! You looked so happy and proud of yourself. And we were too!!

And you finally got some chocolates as a reward!

From this day, you started to call it out more often and you seem to understand how it should be without a diaper!!

This is a huge milestone for you. Mama and Papa are very proud of you that you are growing bigger and bigger. β€οΈπŸ˜„

Now we are getting close to be diaper free days!!

Great job, Luca.

We love you very much.

Much love, Your Mama ❀️

Preschool started!

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Luca: 2.5 years old

Your preschool finally started on November 13th!

At first, you didn’t know what is going to happen so first 2 days, you were so excited to go to school. Mama thought “Oh wow, it was such a piece of cake!” because I thought you were going to cry as soon as I leave. But … the crying started when you learned “school” is somewhere Mama and Papa won’t be with you. So as soon as you figured out, you refused to go to school. Crying a lot at the beginning. Mrs. Ann took care of you so well that she said you were getting used to it.

But after a week, you got some germs from kids at school and you got cold. A lot of runny noses, sneazing, and coughing. And I got it from you and Papa got it from you after all. Luckily, we had Thanksgiving weekend was coming up so you took the Wednesday off and we were hoping you will be better by Monday. However, the cold was persistent. You still coughed with a runny nose on Monday so finally, you went back to school next day, Tuesday. (Btw, I love how you say “Medicine”. You say “Mecident”. So cute! ❀ )

So you haven’t gone to school for about a week and now you have to get used to your school again. Again, you cry a lot at the beginning but now once I leave you at school, Mrs. Ann told me that you stop crying and start the class with the other kids fine. Making friends or having friends is a different story though. I think it will take some time to get used to everything so one by one.

Also, Mrs. Ann told me that you do so well in the class. She asks you to bring your work and ask Mrs. Ann for checking your work by saying “Check (my work) please!” and you do it! She also said you are a very intelligent boy. πŸ™‚ I’m so proud of you!!

I know it will take some time but I know you will be fine at the school. There are great teachers there and I completely trust them.

My project to think about is how to make you think your school is fun. We always sing a song or two in the car while we are driving to school like “Boon Ba Bong”, “Totoro” and “Ebi and Shrimp Mix” songs. And right now we can see Santa Claus on our street so we always drive by and say Hello. What else can I do to make you feel comfortable?
You always look worried on your face like “where is Mama taking me?” face. I sometimes try to switch the route but of course, we always end up to be in the same location so you cry anyway. I wish I know how to change your mind…

Much Love,
Yuko

Our Wedding Day

Wedding at Beverly Hills Court House
Wedding at Beverly Hills Court House

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Photography by: Love Janet Photography

Luca: 2 years and 5 months

On October 20th, your Papa and Mama finally tied the knot together.
My family (your Basha, cousin Yu, and aunt Shino) came to see us as well. They only stayed less than a week but you had a lot of fun together.

Much Love,
Mama

 

Bye Bye and Thank you Ba-Ba!

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Luca: 26 months old

From Day 1 at his birth, a pacifier or pacifiers were his best friend. The hospital where we had Luca gave us a lot of pacifiers. Β He used to suck it all the time and eventually, we made him use it only for his bed time or nap time. But for a long time until now, he couldn’t leave his pacifier alone. If he cries, or hurt himself, he always relied on it. He loved to suck on it so then he felt secure, comfortable, and relax. When he had it in his mouth, he could fall to sleep right away.

I think not only Luca, his papa also relied on it as well because he didn’t want to deal with a cry baby. Once Luca has the pacifier in his mouth, he immediately stops crying.
At one point, we had 8 pacifiers so than anywhere you go, you have one pacifier for sure. When he cried, we could always give it to him “right away”. It was very convenient for us, and for him too. He loved it so much that he started to call it “Baba”. That was one of his first words.

But I started to notice like a month ago, when he smiles, I couldn’t see his front teeth at all. Comparing to other kids around his age, I thought it’s weird not to see his teeth because those front teeth are there but short. When I opened his upper lips, I could see where he sucks the pacifier at because those 2-3 teeth are the only ones shorter than the other ones. So I realized we need to stop using it.

In last mid-July, we planned to go up to Central California, Monterey, and Pacific Grove.
A few days before we left for the trip, I cut the tip of the pacifier by thinking he needs to know it is about to say bye-bye to the pacifier. Luca started to cry and kept saying “Baba broke!,Β baba broke!”. I still remember how painful it was to hear for me. I felt really bad for him. Maybe I did something wrong. His papa also told me I shouldn’t have done that. However, I told myself to hold it strong just for a few days then he will stop asking me about Baba.

In the Monterey trip, I hide one pacifier in my bag for just in case but I pretended I forgot to bring one. Luca kept asking me about Baba but I told him “Baba said bye bye because you are a big boy now. Baba had another baby to take care of now. His job with you are done and he is very happy with you that you are grown up.” I am not sure he understood that but he eventually stopped asking me or his papa for a baba. While we stayed in Monterey, he did ask us for it for a few times but when we say “remember, you don’t need one anymore” then he stopped asking without crying. I was very proud of him for not crying.

Now it’s been almost 2 months since we stopped using the baba. He does ask for it time to time but he is ok without Baba now.

I’m so glad I cut the tip of the pacifier now. πŸ˜€

Much Love,
Mama

 

The first family trip: Monterey

Luca: 26 months old
The latest milestone: Said goodbye to his pacifiers!

On July 14th – 16th, I finally took a day off on Friday and weΒ had the FIRST family trip to Monterey/San Jose/Pacific Grove. The weather was super nice, and the air was crisp. We were worried that it might be too hot but it was not that bad. After 6 hours drive, it was a little foggy already.

I was so excited to take this trip since it was our Anniversary weekend. I don’t know if you want to know, Luca, but we started to date on July 22nd, 2012. We are together for 5 years now! It has been a quite journey to be with your Papa and I am very thankful that I’ve met your Papa. He was the most definitelyΒ different person than the usual guys that I met in past. Very funny, very thoughtful, very honest (in good and bad ways), a straight forward person that I don’t ever have to wander around what he thinks in his head. He will tell you what’s going on in his head, no grey zone in the sense. I have so much grey zone in my head that I made him confused so much at the beginning. I think it’s ok to have grey zone but definitely, he trained me to communicate to deliver my thoughts to him.

This trip was to celebrate our togetherness with you and it was such a fun and beautiful trip. And it was so nice to get away from Los Angeles and my work.

And you know what happened at the end of the trip? Your Papa proposed me to marry him! πŸ˜€ I understand this is kind of backward (having you first and get married next…) but I am glad we finally can complete the perfect circle!

I was super happy that he asked me to marry him. As you may see in the photo, I cried because I was so happy!

The way he proposed me went like this…

You know I always love to take photos, with you or without you. Because I want to capture the fun or beautiful moment and want to look back anytime I want to.
But Papa is totally opposite. He likes to capture the moment in his head as a memory. So he ALWAYS reminds me to “enjoy the moment”. So he reminded me again at the small beach in Pacific Grove while I was taking some photos. “Mama, take your eyes off from your camera and capture this beautiful scenery in your mind. That is more memorable than looking back to the pictures”. I said to him “I know, I know but I would forget so that’s why I’m taking… (I have such a bad memory… I know it’s sad…)” and looked at Papa on my right side. All of the sudden, I found him bending on his knee on sands and asking me: “Mama, would you marry me?” I was soo panicked because of the sudden event, and my eyes tried to look for you because you were running around right in front of the ocean. My mind was like “what’s going on?”, “where is Luca?”, “wait, I thought he wanted to wait for getting married!” so I forgot to say “Yes”. But Papa didn’t give me a chance to say anything and said “Put it on your finger!” and I said “ok ok! Wow!! So pretty!” hahaha

Then I cried… and called Luca and finally, you came back to us.

We took some photos right after you came back and looked at the ocean without my camera, capture the special moment.

After while we spent some time on the beach, we walked back to our car. Then Papa said “Wait, did you say ‘Yes’ to me yet?”. Oops, I think I forgot because I was panicked! lol So now, finally I said “Yes” to Papa.

This trip became a perfect trip for Papa and Mama. ❀

I am not sure if you would remember this moment so when you read this, you can enjoy with us too.

Much Love,
Your Mama

 

 

Your first word of the year

Nash is trying to steal your snack! Watch out! πŸ˜†

Luca: 19 months old

You know your first word of 2017?

UP!!

You know “down” already and when you were going upstairs, and I said “up!”, you repeated after me “Up!”. I was so proud of you that you know what that means and can repeat when we teach you. 😊❀

Much Love,

Yuko

Stairs


Luca: 16 months old

As usual, I take you out for a walk after dinner and recently I realize how you climb or going down on stairs are more advance now. You don’t really sit down on stairs and try to reach it. You use handrails to go up and down. This is very new to me and you but I can see you want to try new thing and try to discover by yourself. I love what I see in front of me! 

Today, you went down stairs with no hands!! Wow, it was impressive! I was little afraid that you might miss a step and fall down so I was carefully watching you. But you did it!! You didn’t have to use the handrails at all (or my hands!)!! 

Day by day, you learn new things and you grow. And you become a big boy. I really enjoy watching your growth. (Well that means I have to really watch out where you are going! )

I’m glad I witnessed your new milestone  today. 😘

Much love,
Your mama

Labor Day weekend


Luca: 15 months old

Last weekend, Labor Day weekend was pretty much fun for Luca. I tried to take him out to different park 3 days in a row. Douglas Park, Colorado Park and Will Rogers Historical Park. It was his first time to visit Will Rogers and he had different experience compared to the other park. It had some horses and big polo field where he could run as much as he wanted to. They didn’t have any recreation part like swings or slides so that was bummer but they had sand field where he can play with his shovel. 

I like to take him out to any park because I can get to participate to discover new things with him or try new things. He tried a slide few times per visit and he wasn’t able to sit down and slide at the beginning but now he knows how to sit and slides (he still needs to hold my heads though). I am so happy to witness his growth like this. ❀️😘😍

By the way, I used to not like Douglas Park because there are too many adults and kids everyday in the weekend. But I see why it’s so popular now. It’s gated, they got a lot of sand fields and also have various slides. For toddlers who barely start walking to big kids. I like it a lot now that I take Luca there almost every weekend. 

It was nice and relaxing weekend for Papa and it was busy for mama but it was fun weekend. πŸ˜„


Such a cute mature look smile you got here!
After a lot of exploring, snack tastes good! Especially being outside makes you feel so good!
Looks! Horses!! Lets get closer next time!
He loves his red shovel and dig sands!
Hey, where are you going??

Breastfeeding is coming to the end! πŸ˜­


Luca: 14 months old

It has been over 14 months that I have been breastfeeding you. Day and night. Starting from every 2 hours since you were born which means even though it was 2 or 3 in the morning when you cried, I breastfed you. I pumped at work twice so then your Papa could feed you during my work hours. And now it dropped down to every 8-9 hours to feed. I still pump at work once at lunch time. Pumping is not easy thing to do especially when my work is busy. But at the same time, I can take a rest in the private Nursing room that my company provides us. I can hide for 30 min and spend a time for reading, watching videos or chit chatting with other moms in the room. It’s relaxing time for mama. 

I always thought breastfeeding was such a special activity to create a bond between mom and her child. And I’m super happy that I was able (still am!) to do for this long. Most of moms either couldn’t do or just quit because it’s not easy thing to do but I made this far! I just love looking at your face when you drink from me with your serious face. And I love the reaction when I say “it’s oppai (breastfeed in Japanese. Literally it means breast though) time!!” You express your joy and give me a big smile with the “milk” sign language (and jump on me)! You give ME a joy by looking at your smile!! Sometimes you bite, chew and pull me with your teeth (and it really hurts!!) and I wish you are able to learn not to do it but I guess you are having fun from my reaction (this is not right!). So when I see that, I stop feeding you. I hope you will learn one day very soon. 

But slowly but surely, my amount of milk is getting low at pumping time. I’m giving a try on the herbal tea which can produce more milk for this week but in terms of pumping, it may be a time to stop. I have a bittersweet feeling about this. I’m happy to quit so then I have more time for myself at lunch time but I’m super sad to quit because this is one of the signs that the breastfeeding session will be over soon. I know I can create more bonding time with you in different ways but I feel so melancholy. But I have to accept the fact that you are growing!! You are not a baby anymore. Time always goes really fast and takes away of fun stuff sometimes like this. But I guess we all need to grow and so are you, Luca! 

I’m very happy that you haven’t gotten any sickness so far. I believe this is because of my breastfeeding. Cheers to that!! πŸ‘πŸ»πŸ˜„πŸ˜„πŸ˜„πŸ‘πŸ»


Much love,
Your Mama

May and June Baby Birthday part

Where are you going? It ‘s time to take a picture!
Every parents try to put their babies in the area so then we can take a picture or two… but you just don’t care and just smiling at some adults…
Ellis and Luca. Ellis was one of the few babies who already knows how to walk.

Luca: 12 months old and 1 week

Parents I know from mommy and me class at Pump Station Santa Monica invited us for May and June Baby Birthday party at Douglas Park on Memorial Day. I was looking forward to seeing every moms and their babies how they are now. I expected to see those babies are already walking but they were still at crawling stage although every babies are different. I still thought if Luca meets other babies, he would get excited and play with them. 

When I put Luca in the babies’ circle, it was completely different from my expectations. Luca took a glance at babies and just walked away. 1 year old babies don’t really play each other? Or it’s just Luca that he thought it wasn’t his crowd? I am not sure but he didn’t seem to be interested. As you can see at the 1st pic, he didn’t want to be in a circle. Lol Oh well, he got some free spirits, I guess. That’s ok too. 

I was just happy that I got to see other moms and catch up a little. Some of the moms who has a boy goes through same thing as I do: boy throwing a tantrum, being aggressive when he is upset… When I see his anger, I tend to think, is it my fault? Did I or Papa show our anger at some point and he learned from us? The moms think same way as I do and I was glad to share that thought. I wasn’t alone I thought. 

I hope Luca and I can see them more often…