Luca: 6 months and 2 weeks
Solid food: avocado (3rd day)
Today, I’m going to talk about my work, not much about you Luca.
I’ve been so stressed out lately for this project that I am in at my work right now. It is a huge project and I am one of the main guys that everyone kind of depend on. If I don’t finish a task, nobody can go forward. It doesn’t sound productive but this project is in a special case that doesn’t happen that often.
I am a front end engineer at this one HR tech company. I am belong to Mobile team at this moment (for 3 years!) and we are changing the look of our mobile app. It has been about a month and a half since this project has been started and we have 4 more weeks to go.
Long story short, after I discussed about my issue and this project, my boss mentioned an interesting point: I tend to overplease people.
My time is limited, super limited. I work 7 hours a day instead of 8 hours because I pump twice a day and I need to feed you at lunch time so I can’t really spend my lunch at my desk anymore. Before I had you, when people asked me to do extra work, I took it without questioning them if it’s really necessary right at this moment. I’ve never said no to people ‘s request. Because I want to make them happy, I want to help them so then I feel happy and I could stay longer at my office if I needed more time. But now my another responsibility is waiting for me at home at 515pm. That means no overtime, no more extra work. I tend to do same thing as before my pregnancy with shorter amount of time. No wonder I was running behind of my schedule. Lol
You would think it’s helping people when you say yes to their requests but actually you are not doing any favor to yourself. They start stepping all over you too. I just need to know when to say no but with suggestion, provide other ideas so then it will be a win-win situation. This is the discussion I had with my boss.
It was a little eye-opener comment that he gave me. “Overplease people”. I have thought about it before but when I hear that from someone else’s mouth, it sounded different and it shocked to me.
But you know what got me through this stressful week(s)? Your smile, Luca and the face when you are sleeping. You just give me so much of joy that as soon as I see your face and see your smile, I just forget what I’ve gone through on that day. I am so thankful that God chose us and let me and your papa to have the responsibility to raise you. I love you very very much. ❤️